In this video Mat Boggs shares advice on when you should sleep with a guy.
So you’ve been dating for a little while and you are incredibly attracted to him – so when should you take that first step to making your relationship more intimate? Follow the advice below.
When He Signs Your Contract
Now, that doesn’t mean that he has to literally sign a contract. But it does mean that he has to agree to your terms and conditions, so to speak. If you want to wait until you’re in a strong and committed relationship before you sleep with him for the first time, make it clear. If you usually wait five dates, then that’s fine. If you’re just looking for fun and you’re not looking for a committed relationship, and you want to hook up and nothing more, then tell him. Whatever it is that your terms and conditions are, make it clear to him that you need him to agree to them before you sleep with him.
Before you sleep with him for the first time, he needs to give you what you need on an emotional level. The boundaries that you put up in a relationship – how you wish to be treated, how you treat other people, what you need on an emotional level, what you consider to be cheating, the traits that you look for in your partner etc. etc. Whatever it is that you need on an emotional level, he should be providing – before he gets to sleep with you. If he doesn’t give you what you need, although you’re very physically attracted to him, you should hold off on sleeping with him.
Men Respect Women Who Wait
You might think about sleeping with him before he’s willing to give you what you need because you’re afraid that he’ll leave you or that he’ll find another woman willing to sleep with him. But if he does leave you, that’s absolutely no loss – he obviously doesn’t respect what you want and need enough to be a worthy boyfriend. In the long-term, if you’re dating a man who respects you, who respects your decision to wait before having sex and wants to be with you despite the fact that you’re holding off on sleeping with him, you’ve probably got the right man!
About Mat Boggs
A true difference maker, Mat Boggs has dedicated his life to increasing Love in the world one heart at a time, and helping others achieve their dreams. Mat has co-authored the best-selling book, Project Everlasting: Two Bachelors Discover the Secrets of America’s Greatest Marriages.
Mat has appeared on dozens of national media venues including: The Today Show, CNN Headline News, Fox News, CNN Showbiz Tonight, ABC Family, The Style Network, and many others, as well as contributed to an international peace symposium with His Holiness the Dalai Lama.
As a highly sought after speaker, relationship coach, and certified LifeSuccess consultant, Mat has helped people all over the country understand the hearts and minds of men, create major breakthroughs in love, and attract the relationship they want.