In this interview Micki Lavin-Pell, a relationship coach shares tips on how to make yourself more approachable to men.
Understand that being shy and nervous is natural
Being shy and nervous is natural and there is nothing wrong with this but you could be giving out all of the wrong signals to a guy by showing how you feel. Think about it, if you are not looking at him and are not really making conversation, of course he could read this as meaning that you are just not into him. And what a shame if you two actually do like eachother. You need to accept who you are but decide to step outside of your comfort zone and find some confidence so that you can give things a chance to develop but you don’t have to change your personality totally as he wants to know the real YOU. Just learn a little about making yourself more approachable because he finds it hard to come over to you as it is.
Accept that you need to work on being more open
Being more open not only helps you but it helps your future guy as he is nervous too, and is probably thinking that you will reject him. So help him out, show him that you are interested so that he has the confidence to come on over to you and make things happen.
Accepting that you need to take control a little puts you in a position of power and means that you will know the steps to take, and one great one is below.
Study the art of body language
It sounds really simple but it is. You can study the art of body language and it can really help you express to a guy that you are interested. Just look up advice on eye contact, and how to hold your body, and he will read these signals, and you don’t even have to say a word. He will know that you are interested and he can then do the rest so don’t think that you have to stride over there and do a lot of talking, just relax and make a few tweaks here and there.
About Micki Lavin-Pell
Micki Lavin-Pell, MS, MA. is a Certified Marriage and Family Therapist and Relationship Coach. She uses several treatment modalities such as Imago, Psychodynamic psychotherapy, Somatic Experience therapy (Trauma), EMDR (Trauma), Systems theory (for family rebuilding).
To know more about Micki, visit her website www.mickilavinpell.co.il.