In this video, Brad Browning, a relationship coach will tell you what to say to get your ex back.
Don’t Say Anything
If you’ve ever asked yourself what you should say to get your ex back, then the answer is “nothing.” It may sound strange, but saying anything to your ex about wanting them back does more harm than good. It is one of the easiest, yet biggest mistakes people make because it doesn’t work and makes you look pathetic and needy.
No one wants someone pathetic and needy.
Beginning the “No Contact” Phase
If you’ve only recently broken up then now is the time to cut all communication with your ex and enter into a 30-day “No Contact” phase. Even if you’ve already contacted them, begging and pleading, then it isn’t a lost cause if you enter this phase right away. Without being rude or overt, ignore their simple messages whenever possible. And, if you do enter into a conversation somehow, then use the first opportunity you can to politely leave or end the conversation.
The reason for this is that your ex will find it much harder to cope with the breakup if you simply vanish from their life, rather than giving them time to adjust to it. It’ll make them miss you, wonder about you, and forget the negative aspects of your old relationship that led to the breakup.
If you’re in a situation where you have to communicate with your ex, such as if you live together or you work in the same office, then Brad can provide solutions in his book.
After the “No Contact” Phase Ends
Around the time when the 30-day “No Contact” phase ends, your ex has likely been trying to contact you. Whether or not they have, when it’s time to respond you need to avoid begging and pleading. The phase was meant to wipe the slate clean and leave your ex missing you like crazy, so now you need to show them the new and improved person you’ve become. Be fun, be interesting, and be confident.
When you reestablish communication, don’t bring up anything related to the breakup, since it is a toxic subject and will undo everything you’ve done to this point.
About Brad Browning
Brad Browning is a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. For the past decade, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups and mend broken relationships.
Brad is author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide program, which teaches readers how to get their ex back. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or recovering from a difficult breakup.