Thirty or so days have passed since your breakup and you’ve decided to contact your ex for the first time. After constructing the perfect message to send to them, you wait and wait for a response to come… but it doesn’t. In this video, Brad Browning, a relationship coach covers why your ex is ignoring you and what to do.
The first thing to do is not panic if they don’t respond to your message right away. They could be busy or unable to answer. Likewise, don’t keep sending messages since it can get out of control and make you look crazy or desperate. Just wait for a week before trying again.
Use a Familiar Method
Next, you need to use the proper type of communication in order to get in touch with your ex. If they are a phone-person, call them. If they are the type to text, then send a text. If you use a method they aren’t comfortable with, they’ll likely stop communicating with you altogether.
No Pointless Texts
Sending pointless, one-word or short texts gives your ex no reason to respond. Try texts that remind them of events and things that are interesting to them, so there’s a good reason to send the message and show you’re thinking of them. And don’t be afraid to add an exclamation mark.
If your ex responds with a boring or bland text, don’t let it get to you. Keep your upbeat tone and be the one to end the conversation. This will stir up their interest in your life and how you’re doing.
If you decide to phone your ex, you should try to call during a time when they aren’t available—like when they’re at work. This way the call will go to voicemail and you won’t be caught off-guard by their response. Whether it goes to voicemail or they do pick it up, make sure you know what you are going to say, and that the message has a purpose—such as reminding them of something they’d like.
Keep it brief, keep your tone light-hearted, and make sure you’re the one who ends the call. If they call you back, let it go to voicemail and wait 24 hours before you call them. And don’t show any sign you still want to get back together, you need to project the image that you’re a new person doing well after the breakup.
About Brad Browning
Brad Browning is a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. For the past decade, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups and mend broken relationships.
Brad is author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide program, which teaches readers how to get their ex back. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or recovering from a difficult breakup.