In this video, Matthew Hussy shares the four primary traits that men are looking for in a woman. Obviously, this is objective. Not every man follows these four but this is a pretty good stab at it.
Number one- playfulness.
Playfulness is one of the most attractive traits because life is hard enough without being with someone who is serious all the time. Someone who could be light, fun and even goofy is somebody who makes the world a little bit more pleasant to live in.
Second trait- sexiness.
Sexy is not just somebody who’s overtly sexual. It’s somebody who can show her sexual side in a number of ways. You can show it by moving in a sexy way. By showing somebody that you desire them- that shows you have a sexual side. When you think somebody is hot when that someone is doing something sexy- that shows your sexy side. It could be by a look you give somebody. When you give a guy a cheeky look across the table- that says I’m undressing you right now with my eyes and you don’t even know it. In those moments, he feels the sexual tension and he sees that you have a sexual side.
Third trait- nurturing.
It’s when a person makes you feel both loved and looked after. It’s the person that when you yawn, says “Long day, babe?”. It’s that person who’s nice, warm and has that loving energy. Everyone wants to be looked after. It makes the world seem a better place.
Fourth trait- independence.
A lot of men when asked, if they were being honest, might say they wouldn’t want their woman to have that much independence ‘cause it scares them. When you are independent, we tend to get a bit insecure. We feel like you’re not gonna need us anymore. But the reality is when you are more independent and you have your own life, hobbies and things you enjoy doing, that’s what keeps him attracted. It’s what makes him feel like he has a great teammate. You can be a strong teammate when you are independent.
This sounds intimidating but you don’t have to be all of these four traits at the same time. The key is to be the right amount of it at the appropriate time.
About Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey, speaker and New York Times Bestselling author, serves as a matchmaker on “Ready for Love,” NBC’s innovative and dramatic new relationship show about making real connections.
Through his online programs, viral internet broadcasts, sell-out seminars, NYT Bestselling book, and his roster of private clients, he has been able to pass on his insights and strategies to countless people. 50,000 women have attended his live events and he has reached over 10 million online. Hussey is the new international guru of the dating and relationship-coaching scene.