In this interview, Karla Downing talks about some signs women should be aware of that a man is not really committed to you. It can be tricky trying to decide how long to stay in a relationship before you get a commitment, but are there signs you can read that tell you he’s just not going to commit?
Do his Actions Match his Words?
If you’ve caught him lying or if he’s prone to saying one thing and doing another he’s probably not committed to you. Another sign is that he says he wants to commit but then he makes his own plans. He makes serious financial decisions without involving you or that seem counteractive to a life with you. If he is telling you one thing, but his actions are telling you the opposite you may want to consider moving on.
He won’t talk about Commitment
If you’ve brought up the subject of committing and he gets nervous that is a bad sign. Men that aren’t really committed to you will change the subject and do their best to get out of talking about commitment because it makes them uncomfortable.
He moves too Fast
If he wants to move in right away it’s probably out of convenience, not necessarily because he is ready for a serious commitment. Also, if he seems to be getting serious really fast you should be wary. Often, when things come too easily in a relationship it’s because they aren’t real.
What it comes down to when you’re concerned about his commitment is how much time do you have to wait around for this guy? If you’ve noticed all of these signs together you’re probably with a guy that may never commit to you. Does he lie? Does he refuse to talk about commitment? Do his actions seem too quick and insincere? Do his actions match up with the words he is telling you? If not, move on! Otherwise you’re wasting time with the wrong guy when you could be out meeting the right guy!
About Karla Downing
Karla Downing is the author of 10 Lifesaving Principles for Women in Difficult Marriages. Her second book, When Love Hurts: 10 Principles to Transform Difficult Relationships, applies the same principles to all family members. Her third book, The Truth in the Mirror: A Guide to Healthy Self-Image, offers a unique and life-changing approach to looking at self-image. She is the author of several eBooks and hundreds of articles on relationship issues, including LifeWay International articles focused on training women’s ministry leaders to help women struggling in difficult relationships.
She holds a Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy from Hope International University. Karla also holds a Bachelor of Arts and Master of Arts in Communicative Disorders from California State University, Fullerton. She is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a licensed Speech Language Pathologist. To know more visit her website www.changemyrelationship.com.