One of the biggest excuses people use when breaking up with you is “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” What can you do when this is the message your ex is giving you?
What “I Love You But I’m Not In Love With You” means
When two people break up there is often an emotional clog that is blocking the attraction between the two of you. The attraction is not lost. The problem is that there are bad emotions in the way blocking the attraction that is already there. When your ex says they aren’t attracted to you anymore or they love you but aren’t in love what they are really saying is something is blocking those emotions.
What is the solution?
Trying hard to “re-attract” your ex is not going to work, and in fact may only make matters worse. Instead, you need to focus on removing that emotional block that has gotten in the way of the attraction and love the two of you already feel for each other.
How do you get rid of the emotional block?
Most people bring a lot of emotional baggage to a relationship, as well as assumptions, beliefs, and expectations. We see our parents, we pick things up on tv and movies, and we pick up false ideas on what we should expect from a relationship. What creates an emotional clog is when your partner and your beliefs do not come together harmoniously. The way to remove this clog is to work on your emotional and relational skills so the two of you can come together. You can get past any superficial problems if you are willing to work hard enough to make the right changes.
People often say “I love you, but I’m not in love with you,” or “I’m just not attracted to you anymore” when they are breaking up with someone. However, the attraction that was there in the beginning has not just disappeared. There are just negative emotions blocking those feelings. If you want to bring those sparks back together again, the solution is not to re-attract your ex; your ex is already attracted to you. You need to focus on removing the emotional block so that your positive feelings of love and attraction can begin to flow again.
About Clay Andrews
Clay Andrews is a dating and relationship coach who helps women find the right type of man they can create a loving and thriving relationship with. He is the creator of Ex Solution Program- a program that helps couples get back together. To know more about Clay, visit her website below.