In this video, relationship coach Brad Browning reveals how to shift the balance of power and make your ex chase you.
People often make the mistake of thinking that the only way to get their ex back is to convince him they deserve a second chance. You probably feel like it’s up to him to decide whether you get back together or just remain friends. Allow yourself to take back the power. The most effective means for getting your ex back is to make him chase you and beg you to get back together.
Steal Back the Power
The first thing you need to do is take back the power. Whatever the scenario was surrounding your breakup, you probably weren’t happy with it. If you still have feelings for your ex and want to rebuild a romantic relationship with him, chances are it was your ex’s idea to break up. When your ex broke up with you he was in a position of complete power. Despite your best efforts to stay together you were completely powerless. If your ex came back to you all he would have to do is ask and you would have gone along with him. It’s time to take back the power and put yourself in a stronger bargaining position.
Remove Your Ex’s Safety Net
By doing this you are turning the tables on him and making him chase after you. End all communication with your ex for about three to five weeks. It will be totally unexpected for him. By disappearing off his radar you are communicating that you are okay with moving on and that you want to replace him with someone new. Even if this isn’t your true intention, it’s important that you maintain that it is. As the weeks pass your ex will be powerless to stop the nostalgic feelings and stop missing you.
Remove the safety net. Your ex may have asked you to remain friends. It’s a fall back option in case things don’t work out for him. By not talking to your ex for a while you are sending a clear message that friendship isn’t an option and breaking up will cause him to lose you completely. If your ex does try to contact you, show him he’s no longer in control. Be calm and casual while communicating with him. Let him see that you aren’t phased by losing him or living a life without him. He will start to think he’s made a huge mistake that has severe consequences.
Wait For Your Ex To Chase After You
If your ex has realized you are fine without him, it’s likely he will begin to contact you with increasing frequency. He may try to sway the balance of power by throwing out morsels of affection. Don’t fall for it and stay strong. After a while it will become obvious that he is growing increasingly desperate to get a response from you. He will want to schedule a meeting with you. He will have realized that he has made a mistake and hopefully ask for another chance. When this finally does happen you will have successfully flipped the balance of power upside down.
About Brad Browning
Brad Browning is a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. For the past decade, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups and mend broken relationships.
Brad is author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide program, which teaches readers how to get their ex back. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or recovering from a difficult breakup.