In this video, relationship coach Brad Browning explains three phases step by step, that will increase your chances of getting back together with your ex.
This is the first phase after a break up. You will be feeling at your worst. Feelings of heartbreak and depression, or emotional outburst are common. The main goal of this period is to recover. You want to get to the point where you can make rational decisions. The best way to do this is to take the first month and remove all contact with your ex. Eliminate physical reminders of them including contact details on your phone or on social media. It’s very important during this phase to occupy your time. Have a great social life. Start new hobbies. Work on your goals. Start going to the gym. Staying busy will really help the time pass faster and it will set you on the road to rebuilding your life.
Loss of Attraction
Every single break up is caused by loss of attraction. Attraction isn’t just physical. It also includes your characteristics and emotions. You may have displayed unattractive behaviours like jealousy, neediness, or complacency. Or you stopped displaying some of the great traits that made him fall for you in the first place. During the recovery phase you don’t need to be overanalyzing these things but it’s a good opportunity for you think of what changes occurred in the relationship to cause the fundamental loss of attraction.
Change the way your ex sees you. One of the best ways to help your ex forget about the negative reasons he broke up with you is to make him miss you. If he was comfortable having you in his life and all of a sudden you vanish, he will miss having you there. The one month of no contact is so important. If he misses you like crazy your chances of getting back together are greater.
Another important thing you want to be doing in this phase is changing yourself back into the attractive person you were in the first place. Be social, make new friends, go to the gym, get involved with new hobbies, maybe even dating other people. If you lead a thriving, interesting life, you become a very attractive person. During this phase, you may even work on producing covert jealousy. If you date other people or hang out with members of the opposite sex, your ex may be jealous. If he sees you being pursued by other people they will assume you are a valuable person and they have made a mistake in letting you go.
Re-establish communication with your ex once the no communication period is over. Don’t just jump into a phone call. Start small. Something like a happy and upbeat text message is best. Avoid any negativity and drama in these first texts. Show your ex a great time. Remind him that you are a great person. Texts that bring up a happy memory you shared, but also ask a question generally are very effective, as they are designed to get a reply. Build from there and prepare yourself for the next phase.
Establish an in person meeting with your ex in order to rebuild a physical and emotional connection with him. Pose as a friend here. You aren’t going to discuss the relationship, just ask to meet somewhere casual to catch up. At this point you can do what needs to be done to start to rebuild attraction. Stay positive. Don’t bring up the relationship or any drama. Keep it friendly, upbeat and happy. Show him a great time. Show them the new you. It’s very important to flirt in order to build some sexual tension with your ex. Don’t be afraid of touch. Bring back the nostalgic memories for him and at the same time, show him you are leading a thriving life.
About Brad Browning
Brad Browning is a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. For the past decade, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups and mend broken relationships.
Brad is author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide program, which teaches readers how to get their ex back. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or recovering from a difficult breakup.