How Not To Win Your Ex Back (The Most Common Mistakes To Avoid When You Are Trying To Win Your Ex Back)
In this video Brad Browning, a relationship expert explains to women what not to do if they want to get back with their ex. Most people who want to get back with their ex often do or say things that ruin their chances by accident. These are mistakes you should try to avoid.
Getting Overwhelmed with Emotion
When you get overwhelmed with emotion, you often do or say things that you regret later. This is more prevalent with breakups that are the result of cheating. If you want to keep your chances high of getting back together, you need to have the self-restraint to avoid doing that.
What You Think Is Right Is Actually Wrong
A more common problem is that what seems like the obvious thing to do, in order to change your ex’s mind on the breakup, is the opposite of what you should be doing. This includes trying to contact them right after the breakup. After you breakup, you’ll want to keep your distance from your ex so they feel the pain of your disappearance over the course of several weeks—no contact at all is best.
Talking About the Breakup
Another common mistake is talking about the breakup itself. Bringing up anything that led to or involves the breakup will remind them why they wanted to end things in the first place. You want them to forget about the negative memories, so the nostalgic memories can take their place and leave them pining.
Don’t Be Desperate
Because your ex has broken up with you, their attraction has faded somewhat. You need to change their perception of you to that of the person they fell in love with in the first place, in order to rebuild their attraction. Begging, pleading, and being needy aren’t attractive and should be avoided.
Don’t (Outwardly) Show Emotions
Never let your ex see the breakup affecting you negatively. Don’t log into your social media accounts and tell the world how miserable you are. Don’t stop talking to your friends because you’re miserable. Keep it hidden away and go on with your life, so that they second-guess themselves and what they’ve done.
Stop Worrying About Them
Lastly, stop worrying about what your ex is doing. It might be tempting to comb over everything they do and say, but there’s no meaning to it. You can’t control how they act, but you can control how you do.
About Brad Browning
Brad Browning is a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. For the past decade, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups and mend broken relationships.
Brad is author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide program, which teaches readers how to get their ex back. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or recovering from a difficult breakup.