In this video Michael Fiore talks about when is too soon (or too late) to have sex with him for the first time. What are your thoughts on this?
Don’t sleep with him so that he will love you.
Men do not fall in love with a woman because she has sex with him. They may feel the feelings that are already there, but they do not develop feelings from sleeping with you – whereas women can fall in love or at least like a guy deeply when she gives herself to him physically. This is because women produce hormones that create a bonding experience, but guys literally can have sex and enjoy it, but it also not mean anything..
And so – don’t sleep with him because you hope that when he is inside you he will realize that he loves you.
Don’t play too hard to get, you don’t have to wait ‘too long’.
If you wait for too long your guy may think that you are not interested, so if you are, let him know. You don’t have to play it cool and wait for three months, which is what some dating coaches are advising – that is just silly! Of course, you don’t want to jump in there too quickly as this may make you look easy. You want to give him time to like you before seeing you as just a sex thing because guys WILL have sex if it is on offer but does not mean that he’s into you.
3-4 dates is pretty average. But go with your gut feeling.
You don’t have to have sex before you want to but having sex around the third date is pretty normal. You won’t look cheap and easy but you are showing that you are interested and you will have a better idea of where things are heading. Use your gut feeling as to when is the right time to have sex. You will know – read the chemistry and see what it tells you.
There really are no rules when it comes to having sex for the first time – just go with what feels right for YOU. But don’t use sex as a way to get his attention. Men can and will have sex and not feel anything.
About Michael Fiore
Michael Fiore is a relationship expert and has helped millions of women across the world have better relationships and Nora is his co-host.