Relationship coach Brad Browning takes you through the five-step process of getting your boyfriend back in this video.
Step 1: Recover from your relationship with him.
If you want your ex back, the first thing to do is to recover from the breakup. You want to move on to the point where you can be rational and able to make good decisions about getting him back.
To recover, you should not talk to him. There will be no contact for at least a month and all things that would remind you of him – gifts, pictures, his Facebook updates – should be kept out of sight.
Step 2: Make your ex miss you.
By not initiating any contact for at least a month, you force your ex to miss you. This works because your ex has been so accustomed to having you around so much that when you disappear from his life just like that, it will be quite a shock to him. He won't be able to help missing you.
Step 3: Make him have second thoughts.
To make your ex have second thoughts about breaking up with you, you need to show him that you are thriving well after the breakup. To do that, you need to use the time during the no contact phase to generally improve yourself and your life.
For starters, be social – hang out with friends and meet new people. Make yourself more attractive by going to the gym and buying new clothes. Broaden your intellectual horizon by taking a class.
And although you may not feel totally up it, this would be a good time to go out on a date with other men. Your ex will interpret this as you moving on really quickly and that just might make him realize that he’s actually afraid of losing you.
Step 4: First contact!
Initiate the first contact with your ex after the no contact period. During these early stages, keep your conversations short, preferably lasting no more than a couple of minutes. You want to seem fun, upbeat and positive so this is not the time to dredge up the drama of your breakup.
Step 5: Set up a first meeting!
For this last step, suggest a 30-minute meet-up to your ex just to catch up on each other’s lives. The goal is to show him how well you’re doing, to have fun, and, most of all, to flirt with him! Seduce your ex to build up – and remind him of – the sexual attraction that has been an integral part of your emotional connection in the past.
About Brad Browning
Brad Browning is a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. For the past decade, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups and mend broken relationships.
Brad is author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide program, which teaches readers how to get their ex back. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or recovering from a difficult breakup.