Have you ever been frustrated by the fact that guys aren’t asking you out on second dates or that they’re not pursuing you?
In this video, Relationship and Dating Coach Matthew Boggs talks about the five reasons why men stop chasing you.
He doesn’t see you in a potential romantic relationship.
There are three categories that when men meet women, they tend to associate them with one of these categories. The first category is friendship. She’s an amazing woman- but just a friend. The second category is pure sexual attraction. The third category is the combination of the two- an amazing friend that they’re sexually attracted to. It’s called the long-term relationship. If a man doesn’t feel that you’re a relationship potential for him, he’s gonna stop pursuing you. For men, relationship and sex are not overlapping. You can have amazing sex with a man but doesn’t mean that he would want a relationship with you. The good news is that if he doesn’t want a relationship with you, it means that there’s somebody even better for you.
You do all the planning.
It’s really important for men to feel like they’re the providers. Oftentimes, women jump in too soon and take control of the planning. Try to experiment where you take a step back and create some space for him to lead and to plan. By doing so, he’s gonna pursue the relationship much more.
He doesn’t feel like he could actually win with you.
Men need to know that they can win. They need to know that they can provide for you and make you happy. When you go out with your man, celebrate him for the things that he is doing for you. Make him feel like a king for the ways he is providing for you.
You’re in an insta-relationship.
It’s off-putting to a man if he feels like the woman has fallen in love with him too fast. Men don’t feel like a woman can fully know them so fast. And if she is already fully-committed and falling in love, then something’s wrong because he’s not even sure how he feels about the relationship yet. If he feels like you’re so into the relationship this early, he will stop pursuing the relationship. If he feels like the risk of hurting you is too high, then he will often bail on the relationship. Let him know that you like him and you’re interested in him but let him know that he’s gonna have to earn the right to be committed to you. It triggers the attraction and makes him value what you have.
He feels like an object.
Some women select not him specifically but because they’re trying to fill a void in their lives. She maybe wants a man for her child or just any man to stop being single. It will create a feeling like he’s just one of many guys that you’re selecting to feel a void and he just happens to be that person. It makes him feel less special. You should make your man feel like he’s unique, special and selected over all these other options that you have. Compliment him on his character. When you make him feel special, he’s gonna pursue the relationship even harder.
About Mat Boggs
A true difference maker, Mat Boggs has dedicated his life to increasing Love in the world one heart at a time, and helping others achieve their dreams. Mat has co-authored the best-selling book, Project Everlasting: Two Bachelors Discover the Secrets of America’s Greatest Marriages.
Mat has appeared on dozens of national media venues including: The Today Show, CNN Headline News, Fox News, CNN Showbiz Tonight, ABC Family, The Style Network, and many others, as well as contributed to an international peace symposium with His Holiness the Dalai Lama.
As a highly sought after speaker, relationship coach, and certified LifeSuccess consultant, Mat has helped people all over the country understand the hearts and minds of men, create major breakthroughs in love, and attract the relationship they want.