In this video Brad Browning, a relationship coach gives three examples of texts that can be very successful in helping you get your ex back.
Why Texting is so Great
Why is texting such an excellent way in communicating with your ex when you want to get him back? For starters, it allows you time to think and plan your texts in advance. If he responds and you would like to respond, you have time to think rationally and plan your text. Texting doesn’t convey the same kind of neediness and desperation that phoning or in person visits can convey. There is no pressure for your ex to respond. Texting can be a great communication tool, but you do not want to send text messages until you’ve taken the proper steps and set the stage for building a rapport with your ex. He will then be receptive to receiving contact from you.
Texts to Avoid
Not every text is going to be effective and some will push him even further away. Bad texts like “hey,” “what’s up,” “what are you doing?” are essentially pointless. There is no sort of interesting, funny or stimulating element to the message. These won’t help your cause. Anything related to relationship drama, anger, heartbreak, or the breakup shouldn’t be mentioned. Texting should only be for sending fun, interesting things that should rebuild attraction and get him thinking about you in a positive way.
Text 1: The Shared Memory Text
Bringing up a positive shared memory about something you and your ex enjoyed can be very effective. He will think about you and associate this positive memory with you.
Text 2: The Question Text
Referencing a happy memory through a question is also very effective. Ask him if he remembers something special you shared. You can say something like “do you remember that beach we found last summer? The private cove? Do you remember how to get there? I want to go with a friend.” You bring up a positive memory, you are insinuating that you are going with a friend which may be of the opposite sex, which may cause some covert jealousy, and you are asking a question that will hopefully get a response. The question should always be meaningful and relevant.
Text 3: The Supportive Text
Send a message that reminds your ex of something you did regularly in your relationship that was supportive and that he appreciated. “Hey, I just remembered you have a big exam next week. I’m sure you’re stressed but you’re going to do great.” If you often helped him study for exams, this will trigger positive memories.
About Brad Browning
Brad Browning is a relationship coach and breakup expert from Vancouver, Canada. For the past decade, Brad has worked with thousands of men and women around the world, helping to reverse breakups and mend broken relationships.
Brad is author of the best-selling Ex Factor Guide program, which teaches readers how to get their ex back. He also offers personal coaching to a limited number of clients, guiding them through the process of winning back an ex or recovering from a difficult breakup.