In this video Matthew Hussey talks about when you’ve engaged a guy in conversation how you should go about flirting. Many of us start with really basic questions, but is this the best way to strike up a flirtatious conversation?
Step 1: Skip the Logical Questions
Don’t start off asking where he’s from, where he works, how many siblings he has, etc. The truth is you don’t really even care about the answers to these questions yet. It doesn’t even really matter what his name is at this point. When you very first meet someone the most important thing you need to find out is if there is chemistry.
Step 2: Don’t Answer His Logical Questions Logically
If he is asking you the logical questions you don’t necessarily have to answer logically. You can start talking about something entirely more interesting. You can be completely absurd and joke around. The idea is to make the conversation fun by skirting around those dry personal questions that never lead to an exciting conversation.
Step 3: What Version of Yourself are you Presenting
When you are speaking with someone be aware of what version of yourself you are presenting. Are you presenting the work version of yourself that goes in and meets with your boss every day, or are you bringing out the fun version that hangs out with your friends? If you’re trying to flirt and establish chemistry leave the work version at home. Make sure you’re presenting your most fun, most entertaining self.
When we first meet someone we often start off with the really basic logical questions. How are you? Where are you from? Where do you work? However, at this point what you really want to know is do the two of you have any chemistry. The logical questions often lead to dry conversations, so skip those questions. If he starts asking you those types of questions be creative in your answers. Steer the conversation toward a more fun and playful tone. Make sure you are not bringing the boring work version of yourself to the conversation, but the fun version you save for hanging out with your friends. Your conversation should be flirtatious and establish chemistry, rather than logical and informative.
About Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey, speaker and New York Times Bestselling author, serves as a matchmaker on “Ready for Love,” NBC’s innovative and dramatic new relationship show about making real connections.
Through his online programs, viral internet broadcasts, sell-out seminars, NYT Bestselling book, and his roster of private clients, he has been able to pass on his insights and strategies to countless people. 50,000 women have attended his live events and he has reached over 10 million online. Hussey is the new international guru of the dating and relationship-coaching scene.